The concept that interests in me is self-disclosure, “when one person voluntarily tells another person things about himself which the other is unlikely to know or discover from other sources” (Trenholm, 2008, p. 160). I like this concept because I have a bad habit of disclosing too much information about myself to the people I just know. Because I always believe the best in people. If I’m lucky, the person will respect my self-disclosure and I will feel relive to get something off of my chest. However, I have experience that people use the information I told to against me. I think people should be grateful that others want to disclose themselves to you because that means they value you and your personality. “When we self-disclose, we share with another our past experience, present feelings, basic values, and hopes and fears” (p.161). And I think it takes a lot of courage to disclose that kind of information.
I also chose the concept of self-disclosure and found it to be interesting. I liked how you disclosed that you have a bad habit of revealing too much about yourself. Sometimes I have to analyze what I will be saying in the conversation because I get worried that I won’t get the response I wanted. I also want to see the best in people, but the reality is sometimes people will use what you disclose against you and not initially at the moment but when they feel it will hurt you. When people disclose information about themselves to me, I understand it as a positive gesture because they are comfortable and wanting to let their guard down; however, when I am the one letting my guard down, it makes me feel more vulnerable because they might perceive me in a negative way.
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ReplyDeleteI also think the topic of self disclosure is interesting. The act of self disclosure is very personal and delicate and should be handled with care. It seems that disclosing personal information is something that people would only do with people they trust and that know them well; however, this is not always the case. People often disclose information about themselves to complete strangers. I know I've offered self disclosure while pumping gas, talking with people in line at the grocery store or to bartenders. I think there are different reasons for disclosing certain information to people you don't know whether it be that you won't ever see them again and figure it's safe or that you really need to get something off your chest. On the other hand, I've had strangers unload their personal information on be before and it has made me feel uncomfortable and even irritated. It's important to think before you speak.
-Holly
That is so funny that you picked this concept because I did too! I was reading different blogs on other classmate's favorite concepts and this one came up a lot! I agree, that it is very important to think before you speak because sometimes people will share a little too much and it can get out because if you read my blog, you will see a story I share about a friend who disclosed some information to me at one of the worst possible times. This section really grabbed me, but I thought I was the only one! I'm glad other people liked it too!
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